Do you really BELIEVE that a therapist can fix your life?

If I have to pay someone to ask me WHY WHY WHY then I would rather ask myself this question on everything I do and get to the bottom of my social displacement. So I did. And that’s how I saved a lot of money (Since in Pakistan, insurance doesn’t pay for therapy.) (And I also realized if people had problems with me then they might consider consulting a professional, not me.)

I am not going to lie. I did also go to therapists starting from 2004 till 2015 but not for long. Just three. The first one was a male with whom I only had one session. He was only interested in chewing his gum so I refused to sit with him besides, he didn’t do anything anyway. Second was a female therapist whom I consulted on a request of my friend in 2008 (he was very happy with her. I still can’t figure out why). I had two sessions with her and got extremely irritated with her asking “Why… why Xandria why did you do that.” On everything I told her she wanted me to think WHY. Well after second session I realized it’s not a rocket science to ask myself WHY and go at the bottom of the problem (if that is a problem). The third one was a female too who was not that bad actually. I felt very comforted when I was with her but I took only four sessions and we both realized I didn’t need any therapy (she discontinued with me). Yes, I will not be modest here, rather straight forward, she thought I was ‘smart’ haha. Then recently, I went to a psychologist for therapy (whichever she would suggest). She returned me as she also insisted I did not need a therapy. (I am telling you guys, there’s nothing wrong with me. Just accept me for who I am.)

Again, I realized going to a therapist doesn’t do wonders or change you or solve your social, relationship or emotional problems, it’s YOU who do the wonders. If you are not up to it; if you build resistance, what someone else can do?

This is why I sometimes want to tell those, whom I know have been going to therapists for years that have you ever tried to take charge of your life yourself? Have you ever tried to say “That’s it. I can’t take it anymore.” (I did that.)

My life ONLY changed when I took control of it. No therapist could help. I just simply made up my mind.

Also I believe, If we could be lucky or find ‘true’ friends or even just a friend, we don’t need a therapist.

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