When I sometimes tell my daughter how life was when I was growing up, she calls it suffocating. I always laugh and tell her it’s the difference of perspective. Kids these days are born into technology. They cannot think of living a minute without internet or mobile phone. I was born in 1970 and I don’t remember a day when I said that I was bored. We had enough time to do enough of everything. I still remember how school was still fun and after school we had a great social life.  We were not hung on telephones all day even though calls were free. We didn’t paste ourselves to TV or VCR. Instead, we moved.

 

 

I came from school every noon and excitedly had lunch, took bath and jumped to finish homework, which was by the way never of more than one hour (unlike these days), and after homework, I would go door to door to my neighbors collecting children. Everyday 4 pm was same. 

When I was a kid, I lived in my dad’s building. He built it himself and kept a whole floor to himself. It was a good 800 square yard apartment, bigger than a bungalow. Above us, lived our tenants. Luckily every tenant had young children. We would get out of our flats and hop to each apartment on all four floors, gather at one place and just play. Hopscotch, badminton, cricket, monopoly, cards, marbles, Uno etc… the list was never ending. (We even made cup phones to talk to each other.)Our doors were never locked throughout the day. Our apartment was the largest as others had four apartments on a floor. Therefore many times, everyone came to my place to use swings in our large atrium. 

I still sometimes hear the giggles and laughter floating in my subconscious. Sometimes, they make me smile and sometimes I find tears rolling. We would play monopoly for hours, or got stuck up on snakes and ladder. The fourth floor and the roof were my favourite parts. The fourth floor was the brightest and the roof was the widest. We used stairs’ concrete railings as slides. I don’t remember ever using stairs down from the roof. We always slid down. There was no fear. 

In the evenings, ladies of the building would come to the fourth floor with tea mugs in hands and sit on the steps to gossip. We would later sit down with them on floor and ask them to tell us stories. Those made up fake stories always had a moral to discipline us.  In the night we would sometimes put our mattresses on the rooftop and ask our aunt to tell us horror filled tales. It was remarkable how creative ladies were in those days. Their imagination was uncanny. I would shiver in my quilt, wiggling in my aunt’s body in terror. We could see the ghosts and evils from the story flying by us time to time.

On the fourth floor, we played cricket. It was a long corridor with enough wind and sunlight. Our wickets were the trash cans. If the ball tripped the can over, then it was obligatory to push the disgusting trash back in to keep the floor clean. We would hover over it and then run after each other with our dirty hands. It was a game itself and we loved the opportunity to play it.

We used roof on the rainy days as the beach. There was a small ditch in the floor after construction which filled with water and turned into a nice paddling pool for us. We made paper boats, used small wooden planks from the left over construction material which lay on a corner of the roof and imagined they were large pirate ships. That garbage in the corner was a place where we played treasure hunt. We were always lucky to find broken tools, chains, empty containers, wheel burrow, and many small items, which apparently had no names. They were our treasures. We pretended as if we became equipped. We ran around for no reason, screamed for no reason and gasped. It was fun. Roof top was amazing with the view of the city’s tall buildings floating their heads above the clouds and rain.
We played ‘kho kho’, tip-cat, somersault, ran tyres with stick, rode bikes and tricycles… Occasionally adults brought us fireworks on the roof at night. No one was professional in handling those flares and crackers but the moments of joy could be shared for hours even though it was a mess. Our parents and elders were very daring and brave in those days. They led us do things which were dangerous, and that is why we turned out to be this confident.
Each floor had a wall with opening for air and light. That wall was our climbing wall. We would go to the top and push our heads out to scream to the other children sticking out from other floors. There was never ending adrenaline in our blood. We never got tired.

 

In those days, there was only one TV channel in Pakistan. It was called PTV and was government run. There was fixed time for everything on it. It started at 5 pm and at 5.35 till 5.45 pm, they telecasted cartoons. Those 10 minutes were precious to us. We had to be there to watch as this was the only time to have something funny on the screen for our age. I loved Hackle Jackle cartoons. Those 10 minutes of boost was enough to give us undisturbed imagination for next 24 hours.
I still don’t know what magic there was to run from the ground floor to the roof, nonstop for hours, up and down five floors. It was a freedom of vertical space. I don’t remember anyone’s parents shouting or calling us to get home and study (unlike these days). We studied at school only and we turned out to be successful.
There was also enough time to read short stories from story books on the floor and share with one other. After reading, we would pretend to be those characters in the story and would stage the whole story as if it was real. The props were never unavailable. We would fetch things from store to have pretend rides, weapons, cloaks, beards and what so ever. 
We didn’t know that one day there would a thing called a mobile phone which wouldn’t need a cable to work as our telephones. We were already enough amazed to have cordless phones. There was no hint of internet in our stories. These days fiction has made everything possible, which is the reason that kids these days are not amazed on new inventions. They are already prepared to have a time capsule one day. Kids have lost imagination these days after being constantly pushed into text books as an obligation. Internet for them is only for social media such as Facebook or twitter as they are not given free time to spend with their friends. It is shocking how parents complain about Facebook all the time when they are the reason that kids are addicted to it. If children are given life to spend with their age group every day, they learn more competitive skills and they become more confident and equipped with survival skills. Internet is the best invention so far but unfortunately I haven’t seen any parent to encourage and guide children to use it for knowledge boost. All they do is watch movies and chat.
Many of you must be thinking that my daughter must be same. No, EmQue is different because I brought her up like I was brought up. 
I never ask her to finish her homework of three hours every day or go crazy in preparing for quizzes and marked class work for school. I don’t push her to get me 100 percent score so I can impress people in society. I did not encourage her to become addicted to video games , xbox or play station so that I could have time to myself. Istead, I let her meet friends ever day, read my books, talk to me, play with me, go out, see the world and evolve confident and intelligent.

And she is every bit of me!
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